Sep 15, 2009

Summer time seclusion

So obviously I haven't blogged for a while. This summer I decided to take a break and re-focus.
A few things happened financially which prompted this mamma to head back to school. I took two online classes and I absolutely loved them. It was super stressful for a while, but ultimately worth it. I had forgotten how amazing it felt to use my brain.

Growing up I hated school. I never put much effort into it- beyond showing up and turning in the occasional homework assignment. My lack of commitment was proven by the 2.9 I graduated with. This in turn convinced me that I had no talent in the educational field and I decided to skip out on college.

I'd say if I really believed in regrets, that would be my biggest one.

I now know, almost 10 years and three kids later, that it was an experience that would have shaped and matured me in a way that I wouldn't have believed. I would have had direction, purpose and drive, instead of the floundering around, wondering what I was doing here that I did for a very long time.

*I would have learned how to manage my finances:
I had my account closed and my debit card cut up by the bank when I was 19--right before I got married.

*I would have learned how to cook meals:
I made a dinner for The Man when we were dating that left him coughing and sputtering in pain-we laugh about it now, but then...

*I would have learned to love myself:
I always felt like I had to have a new guy every week. And if I didn't feel like people thought I was pretty, I was losing my worth.

*I would have learned confidence in my own decisions:
Anytime anyone ever asked me what I wanted to do, or where I wanted to go, I would reply, " I don't know...where do you want to go?" I would always end up somewhere I didn't really want to be because I didn't want to make a wrong choice.

*I would have learned that I really was capable of putting in hard work and getting good grades:
This summer has shown me that when I put my mind to something, I can accomplish it. I pulled off A's in English and Classical Mythology, but it definitely wasn't easy!

Even though I chose to stay home and not attend college after high school, I don't think it was a wrong decision. Being a wife and mother is an experience I would never trade and I have learned a lot of those previously mentioned life skills along the way. (I don't know if The Man would agree in some of those areas, Im still not the best cook!) Confidence, direction, purpose-these are all wonderful rewards of the life I have chosen to live.
I would like to think that the experiences I have gained from raising children and living a life of service are far more rewarding than the experiences I may have had in college. In a way, I feel I am more prepared now to be able to handle the life of a student than I was then. Even though its hard, it has been absolutely worth it.

So any of you mammas out there contemplating returning to school, I challenge you to just do it!

(ok, so this post wasn't supposed to go this direction..but hey, I just went with it. Look for more posts of our adventures from this summer and a few of recent "firsts" for a lot of us around here!)


  1. I'm in school too! It is fun but hard. I'm writing a 10 pg. research paper at the moment. Yeah!

  2. I am so glad school has been a good experience for you! Isn't God amazing in leading us along our journey? He knows just what we need and when we need it.

  3. I would love to go back to school. But I really don't know what to go for. There are so many things I would be interested in. But when it came down to it would it me right for me? Good job Ashleigh!

  4. ok, I finally took the time to do some blog stalking! I have been wondering if you were out there somwehere? I'm glad you are!!
    kudos to you and school. I really am amazed at how you do it with your busy life! you are awesome and I really do admire you. if you ever need some study time dont be afraid to call!!!

  5. As you know, there is no promises that going to college would have done anything more than having given you more education. Life is for the experiences you have had, the choices you have made and the wonderful person you have become because of them. please don't under-estimate the halls of life courses you have taken. Yes, some you have failed, but most you have succeeded at with flying colors!!! I am mighty proud of the girl I raised and the woman/mother/companion/daughter of God you have become. Love, Mom


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